You can book the best medium in the world and still end up walking away feeling like nothing landed at all, not because the reading was bad, but because of how you showed up for it. The energy you bring into that room matters more than most people realise, and honestly a bit of preparation beforehand can make the difference between a session that truly rearranges your inner landscape and one that just felt like a odd chat you paid for.
Here’s what tends to help.
1. First figure out why you’re really going
Not the surface reason, the real one under it.
Are you showing up because you miss someone and you want that familiar closeness back again? Are you still in the thick of grief, and you’re not even fully sure what you need yet? These are all honest reasons to book a reading. But you do need to know which one is actually yours before you step inside.
People who go in with unexamined expectations, like a personal script in their head about exactly how it should unfold, very often leave disappointed. So take a moment and notice what you’re carrying, and be frank with yourself about it.
2. Spend real time thinking about the person you want to connect with
Not just a fast note. Real time. In the days before your reading, go ahead and look through their photos. Don’t only remember the grand moments; catch the smaller stuff too, the plain things. Like how they took their tea. A sentence they always said, word for word. A habit they had that nobody else did in quite that same way.
Those little details are often what comes through most clearly. And if you want to recognize them in the moment, you need to have been around them recently, even if it is only by revisiting those photos.
3. Write your questions down, then let them go
You’ll want to know what you’re trying to get out of it. write it down before the session, but then don’t rehearse it. try not to build a mental picture of how the reading is going to go, because the moments that end up staying with people are almost never the ones that were planned. it’s more like the things that came through that nobody expected.
Hold your questions loosely. Go in curious, not demanding.
4. Skip alcohol the day before
It sounds small but it isn’t. Alcohol genuinely affects your energetic field and makes it harder for clear information to come through, on both sides of the conversation. Give yourself at least a full day before the session without it.
5. Don’t spend hours researching the medium beforehand
A basic check to make sure they’re legitimate, fine. But going deep into their social media, watching every video, and reading every testimonial builds a version of them in your head before you’ve even met them. You want to walk in as open and fresh as possible. Let the actual experience be what forms your impression.
6. Give yourself some quiet before the session
Even ten minutes. Don’t rush straight from something stressful. Don’t scroll your phone in the waiting room. Just breathe and let yourself settle.
Sanskritii Sethi talks about this a lot in her energy work. What you’re able to receive in any spiritual session is directly tied to the state you arrive in. A mediumship reading is no different. A frantic, distracted energy makes genuine connection harder for everyone in the room.
7. Be honest with the medium about where you are
If you are stuck in a hard grief day, then say it. If you feel nervous or skeptical, that is fine as well, just be upfront.
A good medium isn’t looking for a blank, perfectly composed person. They’d rather know what they’re actually working with.
You being human in that space doesn’t block the reading. It usually makes it more real.
And one thing to leave at the door
The test mentality.
A reading is a conversation. And like any real conversation, you have to actually show up to it, not just observe it from a safe distance.
Arrive ready to be present. The rest usually takes care of itself.
